If you think men want kids, you’re in for a big surprise.
There’s no evidence that they’re going to give up their desire to have kids, but if you want to avoid becoming one of those guys, here are the basics of how to avoid falling victim to a scam.
Do not get caught.
The first step is to not fall victim to the “pink wave” scam, according to Adam Gopnik, author of The Pivot.
“The first thing you need to do is to be very clear that you are not interested in having kids,” Gopnick says.
“That is not going to stop you from being picked up on a red flag that the guy’s trying to scam you.”
If you’re not sure if the guy is actually interested in kids, he might be able to give you some tips to help you make the best decision.
“One thing I would say is that if the man is trying to bait you into having kids, make sure you’re very clear about that.
Be clear about the fact that you’re interested in children, but don’t be afraid to say that,” Gopa says.
And if you are unsure, then “do the absolute best you can.
It’s a gamble that he might just be trying to do something for you, but you don’t want to lose the game,” he adds.
You’ll never be able find a man who’s completely upfront about his desire to get pregnant.
“Women can be pretty cynical when it comes to men’s desire to procreate,” Gomnik says.
So the key to avoiding being conned is to recognize when you’re being coned, and how to spot the signs.
“Just as a general rule, men will talk about their interest in having children with people who they’ve dated or even dated before.
If you can see that this is something that the man might be very serious about, and that he’s really interested in the idea of having children, then you can use that to your advantage,” Gopal says.
Don’t assume he wants kids just to see if he’s attracted to you.
“Men who say that they want to have children are usually interested in how the woman is looking at them,” Gospes says.
You can tell a lot about someone if you can spot their interest from the way they act.
If the man seems interested in getting married, the woman may be interested in a career.
If he’s been talking about having kids and wants to have a family, he may be asking you to marry him to have more children.
“I think it’s important to be aware that you can always tell a man’s interest from his body language, and if you’re a good listener and make it clear that the woman doesn’t want kids just for the sake of having kids — it could be a signal to him that she’s not interested,” Golla says. 4. Don